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There are several aspects of dating that are important so we will dedicate a couple of lessons on dating. There are two sections of dating. It comprises of the time period of trying to get a date, and then the time during the date. It is also important to point out the differences from the male and female perspectives. In this first lesson on dating, we will cover getting a date from both gender perspectives.
In the United States, both genders can ask each other for a date. Just like in any culture, it isn't normal to ask a complete stranger for a date. Usually, you have to start a conversation and get to know each other a little bit before asking for a date. In the beginning, it's normal to engage in small talk. During small talk, you should then find something that you have in common. The longer you talk, the greater the chance that you will get a date. It is all up to how you feel if you want to ask or not. In this lesson, I will cover some sentences you should know so you can succeed in getting a date.
Before we continue though, I would like to mention that blind dates are not common. For example, in Korea, So-geh-ting is a very popular way to get dates. This is in essence a blind date. It is not so common in the United States, so no need to cover it here.
During the conversation, throwing out compliments is a good thing to do. Most people will be flattered by them. But remember not to make them too cheesy.Compliments to a guy"Do you work out at all? You have a nice build.""What kind of cologne is that? I like the smell of it.""I like the sound of your voice. It's soothing listening to it."Compliments to a girl"Your eyes stand out a lot. Do you get many compliments on them?""Does it take you long to style your hair? It looks very good.""I bet you get hit on a lot."
The term 'hit on' means to be approached by the opposite sex. So somebody who gets hit on a lot means to have many people approaching them.Compliments to either gender"It's very comfortable talking to you.""I feel like I can be myself when I'm talking to you.""You seem so intelligent. I like that."
As you can see, these types of compliments are not too aggressive. They are implying good things, but are not a burden to hear. For example, imagine you are talking to a stranger. If they say, "You're so beautiful."
It will more likely scare you away. You will probably think that person is a little crazy. But if someone is talking to you and says a small compliment, then it is very welcomed. So keep that in mind when throwing out compliments.